Have you ever met someone and you just hit it off? The conversations flow easily, and you can talk to that person for hours and hours on end. The vibes are fantastic, and just getting to know each other comes so naturally. You give off the support and care, and that support and care is reciprocated.
To some, the scenario I described might seem like a fantasy. I met a person like that, and sometimes I pinch myself asking whether or not that she was real or a figment of my imagination.
There was a point in time, where I was seeing a wonderful gal — who happened to be in medical school at the time.
Author’s Aside: To set the record straight, I do want to make the point that I very much value the person over the attributes. Additionally, I want to make clear that that seeing/talking to someone is the stage before dating/relationship.
We’d video call for hours and hours just sharing details about our lives, of our dreams and visions of the future, encouraging each other during our hardships. We’d binge watch different shows together. We’d talk about our days. Oh how enjoyable it was to share that time together. I remember sometimes starting a call at 10pm only to realize it was 2am and that I had to go to bed.
We had a couple wonderful dates as well — dinner in the cozy lamp lit outdoors, outlandish drinks at specialty bars, late night cookie runs, fresh catch of the day sushi. I greatly valued and cherished the time I was able to spend with her.
However, despite all the wonderful dates, we never dated. As much as we enjoyed spending time together, she had to prioritize her responsibilities — she was going to be a doctor first and foremost. The time which I had gotten to know her, was during her medical school break. When her life started to pick up, she let me know that she had to focus on her priorities and didn’t feel like she could maintain a relationship. I simply let her know that I was grateful for the time she was able to give and wished her the best before we both went on our separate ways.
Facing situations like these is difficult. Letting someone so wonderful go is nothing short of heartbreaking. I can imagine how difficult it was for her to end our time together, but I was also encouraged that she felt comfortable enough to be open and share that with me.
I remember when we were sharing our love languages, we both told each other “quality time”.
She had so many ways to spend her time during her medical school break, and she chose to spend her time with me.
We never dated, but that’s ok.
The time I share, is time to be enjoyed together. The time I give, I hope you feel cherished and cared for. I hope I can meet a lovely gal in the future, where we can share our time together.
